About Dear Judge, Letters

Children's Letters to the Judge

These letters deal with Fear, Anger, Confusion, Love, Grief an Hope.

It is difficult for parents to know what children think. Often children feel helpless and only give the answers they think the grown-ups want.

These 110 letters are straight from the hearts and minds of children to the person they think can fix everything.

About This Book

This book was created in an entirely different manner than any of our other books. I was sitting in a continuing education class for attorneys. During a break the gentleman next to me and we introduced ourselves to each other. I showed him a copy of the Win Your Child Custody War manual. He asked if he could keep it for a day or two. I made arrangements to pick up the manual at his office later in the week.

When I arrived at his office, his clerk informed me that the judge was out but that he had left my manual and a large manila envelope for me. I thanked her and left. In addition to several very good suggestions and two important case cites. The envelope included a stack of letters with a hand written note that read:

"Dear Charlotte,I have been on the bench in family court for twenty-two years. I have always worked to protect children and secure a safe happy future for them. Often I have had to work with laws with which I disagreed, attorneys I didn't like and parents I couldn't get to see past their own pain and anger. I have lost more sleep about decisions I had to make than anyone would believe.

I don't know why I saved these letters, the first one arrived the first month I was on the bench. Because they are ex parte communications and from children there was nothing I could really do with them. I hope you will use them to help parents to understand what their children are going through. Children trusted me with their true feelings and I am trusting them to you. I would appreciate it if you would find a way to get these letters to the public."

(Name withheld by request)